Podcast
Relationship Advice
Hosted by Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich · EN
Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them each week as they come with a jam packed agenda to help you thrive in your relationships.
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Curiosity Over Questioning
Mar 19, 202500:52:34Tap to summarizeWhat’s the difference between curiosity and questioning in relationships? Learn about the importance of approaching emotional challenges with openness rather than interrogation. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren share their personal journey into couples therapy, attachment theory, and the development of resources to help individuals heal from anxious attachment. In this episode, they talk about topics such as: Difference in Curiosity and Questioning Impact of Questioning How to Lead w/ Curiosity Communicating Emotional Need Effectively Developing Healthier Responses to Triggers and more! Give Me Discounts!Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% offSpark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How To Heal Insecure Attachment With Julie Menanno
Mar 12, 202500:58:57Tap to summarizeJoined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss how to heal insecure attachment by focusing on self-awareness, emotional regulation, and developing a secure relationship with oneself. She emphasizes that attachment wounds manifest through self-abandonment, which leads to unhealthy relational patterns. Healing involves learning to sit with and process difficult emotions rather than seeking external reassurance, shifting from self-protection to self-support. In relationships, individuals must take turns being caregivers for one another, creating an attachment-friendly environment that fosters trust and security.Listen to learn more about topics like: Self-Abandonment as the Root Issue Emotional Processing Over Quick Regulation Building Secure Attachment with Self Discerning Between Attachment Triggers and Relationship Red Flags and more! Julies Bio & Links:Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC, is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. With over 1.3 million Instagram followers, Julie’s relatable advice and real-time couples therapy sessions have made her a trusted voice in relational health. Her book Secure Love, published by Simon & Schuster in 2024, dives deep into attachment theory and is available worldwide. Secure Love, written by Julie MenannoThe Secure Love PodcastGive Me Discounts!Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% offSpark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Boundaries & What's Right
Mar 5, 202500:55:51Tap to summarizeExplore the tension between personal experience and factual correctness in relationships, particularly in boundary-setting and decision-making. The hosts discuss how relying too heavily on logic and research to "win" arguments can create gridlock and emotional disconnection, emphasizing the importance of curiosity, empathy, and slowing down difficult conversations. They demonstrate how shifting from a debate-style approach to one focused on safety and understanding can lead to more productive and fulfilling discussions between partners.In the episode, we talk about topics such as: Struggle Between Experience and "Being Right" The Role of Control in Relationship Conflicts The Window of Tolerance + Emotional Safety The Power of Curiosity > Persuasion Need for Repeated, Small Conversations and more! Give Me Discounts!Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% offSpark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Rituals
Feb 26, 202500:47:45Tap to summarizeThis episode explores the importance of rituals in relationships, emphasizing how they create trust, connection, and predictability between partners. Whether it is daily acts, like greeting each other after work or having a bedtime routine, or larger, less frequent traditions, like weekly date nights, annual celebrations, or even rituals for personal space. Without these conversations, there an be an unspoken expectations around rituals that can create frustration and misinterpretation in relationships. In the episode, we talk about topics such as: Defining Rituals & Their Purpose Unspoken Expectations Types / Frequency of Rituals Actionable Steps and more! Give Me Discounts!Prolon - Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% offCozy Earth - Visit Cozy Earth to get the comfiest sleepwear and sheets on the market! Use code “IDO” for 40% off. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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What Is A Negative Couples Cycle?
Feb 19, 202500:47:11Tap to summarizeA negative couples cycle is a recurring pattern of interaction in which partners react to each other’s protective moves, escalating conflict rather than addressing the underlying emotions. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren illustrate how miscommunication and emotional defenses—such as criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal—reinforce each other in a self-perpetuating loop. By identifying these cycles and understanding the emotions driving them, couples can shift from blame to curiosity, fostering better connection and repair.In the episode, we touch on relationship topics such as: The Root of Negative Cycles Common Protective Moves Emotional Drivers of Conflict Recognizing & Breaking the Cycle Repairing the Cycle Give Me Discounts!Prolon - Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% offCozy Earth - Visit Cozy Earth to get the comfiest sleepwear and sheets on the market! Use code “IDO” for 40% off. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Sex: When To Say Yes & When To Say No
Feb 12, 202500:51:21Tap to summarizeToday Colter, Cayla, and Lauren dive into the “taboo” topic of sex, offering advice on when to say yes and when to say no. This episode explores how partners can navigate differences in sexual desire by recognizing how things like stress, emotional connection, and personal preferences impact intimacy and why a simple "yes" or "no" isn’t always the best response. In the episode, we touch on topics such as: Understanding Individual Preferences Accelerators & Breaks (Turn Ons/Offs) Importance of Communication Counter Offers / Negotiation Creating a Safe Environment Give Me Discounts!Prolon - Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% offCozy Earth - Visit Cozy Earth to get the comfiest sleepwear and sheets on the market! Use code “IDO” for 40% off. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Sep 27, 2023Tap to summarizeWhen our nervous system is activated it's hard to make good decisions, show up how we want to be in relationships and generally keep ourselves together! Listen to today's show for a step-by-step process to regulate your nervous system and go from chaos to calm. In this episode with Julie Potiker we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to find your soothing touch spot to begin calming yourself down Understanding and releasing the shame of losing yourself and acting out in the past How to deactivate yourself in a moment of conflict Using free association to rewire your thinking and bring more joy to your life Understanding the feelings below your emotions and how to do it Detailed visualizations that will help you deal with anxiety, anger and other difficult emotions And much more! SponsorsSpark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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337: Couples Massage
Jan 27, 2022Tap to summarizeTouch is an integral part of relationships that can sometimes get overlooked. Massage is a great way to connect with your partner and take your relationship to another level of intimacy. Plus they feel great! Listen to today's show to learn more about how to perform couples massage and the many amazing benefits it can have. In this episode with Denis Merkas we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How massage helps build intimacy and trust Why you can't be angry at your partner while getting a massage from them How we self sabotage our own needs and how to prevent this Easy techniques that will help you massage your partner like a pro Step-by-step guide to planning your first couples massage session And much more! For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/337Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples ChallengeDo you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love TribeSponsorsForia is an innovative health and sexual wellness company that designs all-natural sexual intimacy products for women, people with vulvas, and the people who love them. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/idoDipsea is an audio app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions that are designed to turn you on and help you get in touch with yourself. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/IDO.If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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