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The Art of Raising Humans
Hosted by Parenting Legacy · EN
Kyle and Sara Wester are Licensed Professional Counselors (LPCs) with over 20 years experience working with children and teenagers in Tulsa, Oklahoma.Their podcast will help you parent from a place of freedom, love, and courage. Their passion is to help you uncover areas of fear and shame in your parenting and inspire you to empower your children to become healthy adults.They use the latest research in neuroscience coupled with their own experience raising 3 children.
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Why Your Teen Needs to Disagree With You (And How to Stay Connected When They Do)
3d ago00:29:07Tap to summarizeWhy does your teen suddenly argue about everything? Why do simple conversations turn into tension, frustration, or shutdown? In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack what’s actually happening in the teenage brain during adolescence and why disagreement is often a healthy sign of development—not disrespect. You’ll learn why teens naturally start questioning parents, what fear this can trigger in moms and dads, and how to respond in ways that strengthen connection instead of damaging it. This episode will help you stay calm during conflict, keep communication open, and build long-term influence with your teen without relying on control or power struggles. If you’ve ever wondered:“Why is my teen pushing back so much?”“Am I losing influence?”“How do I stay connected without giving in?”…this episode is for you.In This Episode:What’s happening in the teenage brain during adolescenceWhy disagreement is part of healthy identity developmentThe difference between defiance and differentiationWhy control often weakens connection and influenceHow to stay calm and connected during conflictPractical ways to respond without shutting conversations downHow curiosity builds trust and communicationThe shift from controlling behavior to coaching decision-makingKey Takeaways:Teen disagreement is normal and developmentally healthyYour response matters more than winning the argumentConnection creates more long-term influence than controlCalm, curious parenting keeps communication openTeens still need guidance, even when they push back View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-your-teen-needs-to-disagree-with-you-and-how-to-stay-connected-when-they-do Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.
Transcribe →Touched Out, On Edge, and Overwhelmed? Why Moms Feel This Way (and What Actually Helps)
1w ago00:29:53Tap to summarizeIf you have ever felt touched out, on edge, or reactive with your kids even when nothing big is wrong, this episode will help you understand why. Most parenting advice focuses on managing your time, your tasks, or your mindset. But what if the real issue is not what you are doing, but what your nervous system is constantly taking in? In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, we talk about the overstimulation many moms experience every day and how constant input like noise, touch, questions, and emotional demands keeps your body in a state of stress. We explain what is happening in your brain and body, why this often leads to snapping or shutting down, and what helps you feel calmer, more present, and more like yourself again.You will walk away with three simple shifts that reduce overstimulation, support your nervous system, and change the way you show up at home. We also talk about how dads and partners can play a key role, not just by helping more, but by actively reducing the inputs that are overwhelming moms. In this episode, we coverWhy moms feel overstimulated even when nothing major is wrongThe difference between mental load and nervous system overloadHow constant input keeps your body in a stress responseWhy snapping or shutting down is often a physiological responseThree shifts that reduce overstimulation and increase calmHow partners can help by reducing input, not just adding support Three shifts to reduce overstimulationLower the input, not just the expectationsYour nervous system needs fewer demands, not just better coping strategies.Externalize what is looping in your mindGetting thoughts out of your head creates space and reduces internal noise.Shift from help to ownership at homeTrue relief comes when responsibilities are fully shared, not managed by one person. Key takeawayYou are not too sensitive. You are not handling it wrong.Your nervous system is overloaded.When you reduce the input, everything from your patience to your presence starts to change. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/touched-out-on-edge-and-overwhelmed-why-moms-feel-this-way-and-what-actually-helps Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.
Transcribe →Why Play Is the Missing Piece in Your Parenting (With Dr. Kim Van Dusen)
2w ago00:38:52Tap to summarizeWhat if one of the most powerful tools in parenting is something most of us overlook?In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Kim Van Dusen to talk about the role of play in building connection, improving behavior, and helping children navigate big emotions. Many parents think of play as something extra — something fun if there is time. But as Dr. Kim explains, play is not just entertainment. It is one of the most effective ways to build trust, teach emotional skills, and create the kind of relationship that actually influences behavior.We talk about how to balance connection and boundaries, what to do when kids have big reactions, and how simple, playful moments throughout the day can completely shift the tone of your home. If you’ve ever felt stuck in power struggles, overwhelmed by big emotions, or unsure how to connect with your child in the middle of hard moments, this conversation will give you practical and realistic ways to start.In this episode, we cover:Why play is more than just fun — it is a powerful parenting toolHow connection through play can improve behavior over timeThe balance between boundaries and connectionHow to respond to big feelings without losing your footingPractical ways to use play during transitions, meltdowns, and everyday momentsWhy some parents struggle to engage in play and how to overcome itHow play builds trust, safety, and emotional resilience in childrenPractical takeaways for parents:Look for small “playful pockets” throughout the dayUse simple tools like visual timers to ease transitionsCreate small rituals that build connectionFocus on your own regulation as the foundationBe willing to step into your child’s world — even briefly About our guest:Dr. Kim Van Dusen is a therapist and parenting expert who helps families build stronger relationships through connection and play. Her work focuses on helping parents navigate behavior, emotions, and everyday challenges in a way that builds trust and long-term resilience. Resources:Parenting Through Play (Book): AmazonAmazon.comWebsite: Kimvandusenkimvandusen.comInstagram: Instagraminstagram.com/theparentologist View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-play-is-the-missing-piece-in-your-parenting-with-dr-kim-van-dusen Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.
Transcribe →10 Things I Want My Teen to Learn Before They Graduate
3w ago00:25:12Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester talk about 10 essential life skills and character traits they hope every teen is learning before graduation. As teens move closer to adulthood, many parents feel the pressure to prepare them for what’s next. But readiness is not just about college, careers, or independence. It’s also about emotional maturity, relationships, responsibility, and knowing how to navigate real life. From learning how to ask for help to handling emotions, building healthy relationships, and developing habits that shape long-term success, this conversation offers practical and meaningful ways parents can support their teens during this important season. In this episode, we cover:Why teens don’t need to have their entire future figured outThe importance of learning how to ask for helpHow responsibility and support work togetherWhy emotional maturity matters more than perfectionWhat healthy relationships and conflict actually look likePractical life skills teens need before adulthoodHow habits shape long-term freedom and successWhy self-worth can’t be tied to performanceThe importance of character over imageHow to maintain connection with your teen after graduation View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/10-things-i-want-my-teen-to-learn-before-they-graduate Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.
Transcribe →How to End the School Year Well and Transition Into Summer Without the Chaos
Apr 2000:29:14Tap to summarizeThe end of the school year can feel exciting, but it can also leave families feeling off, overwhelmed, or unexpectedly emotional. Kids are not just finishing assignments and turning in backpacks. They are leaving routines, relationships, structure, and predictability. And that transition can show up in ways parents do not always expect. In this episode, we talk about how to help your family end the school year with intention and step into summer in a way that feels more calm, connected, and manageable. We walk through how to create meaningful closure for your child, make space for mixed emotions, and build a summer rhythm that supports both your kids and your family.If you want to avoid sliding into chaos and instead create a summer that feels more grounded, connected, and enjoyable, this episode will give you a practical place to start. In this episode, we cover:Why the end of the school year is a bigger transition than most parents realizeHow to help your child get closure and mark the year in a meaningful wayWhy kids often show mixed emotions at the start of summerHow to plan with your kids instead of only for themHow to create a summer rhythm without becoming rigidHow to prepare for common summer challenges like screens, boredom, and sibling conflictWhy different siblings may need different things during the summer View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-end-the-school-year-well-and-transition-into-summer-without-the-chaos Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.
Transcribe →How to Break Generational Parenting Patterns Without Repeating What You Grew Up With
Apr 1300:33:53Tap to summarizeWhy is it so hard to parent differently than how you were raised—even when you want to?In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore how generational parenting patterns form, why they’re so difficult to break, and what it actually takes to create lasting change. These patterns aren’t character flaws, they’re wired into the nervous system through repeated experiences. When stress rises, many parents find themselves reacting in ways they swore they wouldn’t. Drawing on insights from Tina Payne Bryson and Dan Siegel, this episode explains what’s happening in your brain during those moments and how to interrupt old patterns in real time.You’ll learn practical, everyday strategies to regulate your nervous system, repair when things go wrong, and build new patterns that shape a healthier family legacy. Because lasting change doesn’t come from trying harder, it comes from understanding what’s driving your reactions and practicing something new. In this episode:Why generational patterns are stored in the nervous systemHow stress and emotional flooding trigger old reactionsWhat “repair” actually does to rewire the brainPractical steps to build new parenting habits over time View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-break-generational-parenting-patterns-without-repeating-what-you-grew-up-with Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.
Transcribe →Why Your Child Falls Apart When Things Go Wrong (And How to Build Failure Tolerance)
Apr 600:42:34Tap to summarizeWhat if your child’s reaction to failure isn’t about behavior, but about their nervous system?In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore the concept of failure tolerance—and why it’s one of the most important skills your child can develop for long-term resilience, confidence, and emotional health. Many kids today struggle when things don’t go their way. They melt down, shut down, or avoid challenges altogether. But these reactions aren’t signs of weakness, they’re signs of a nervous system that doesn’t yet feel safe enough to handle failure. This conversation breaks down what’s really happening in your child’s brain during moments of struggle and how you can respond in ways that actually build resilience over time.You’ll learn how to recognize your child’s unique response to failure, how to reduce shame and self-protection, and how to support growth without rescuing or overcorrecting. Because failure isn’t something to avoid, it’s something to learn how to handle. In this episode:What failure tolerance really is (and why it’s about regulation)The 3 responses: melter, quitter, avoiderHow shame impacts your child’s identityPractical ways to build resilience over time View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-your-child-falls-apart-when-things-go-wrong-and-how-to-build-failure-tolerance Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: Instagraminstagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.
Transcribe →Discipline Without Damage: Rethinking Consequences, Timeouts, and Big Emotions with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe
Mar 3000:37:40Tap to summarizeWhat if the way we discipline our kids is actually creating the behaviors we’re trying to fix?In this episode, we sit down with psychologist and best-selling author Dr. Vanessa Lapointe to challenge common discipline strategies like timeouts and consequences—and explore what actually helps children regulate, grow, and thrive. If you’ve ever felt stuck between being too harsh or too permissive, this conversation will give you a clear, connection-based path forward. In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why behavior is communication• What’s really happening during meltdowns• Why empathy can sometimes feel like it’s “not working”• How to set firm, respectful boundaries• Why consequences and timeouts often backfire• What kids actually need to develop self-regulation Resources & Links:• Learn more: drvanessalapointe.com• Book: Discipline Without Damage If this episode resonates, follow the podcast, share it with another parent, and leave a review to help more families find this message. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/discipline-without-damage-rethinking-consequences-timeouts-and-big-emotions-with-dr-vanessa-lapointe Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.
Transcribe →Consequences That Work (Without Power Struggles): Common Mistakes Parents Make with Consequences | Part 2
Mar 2300:32:27Tap to summarizeIn Part 2 of this conversation, Kyle and Sara Wester continue unpacking one of parenting’s most misunderstood topics: consequences. After exploring the difference between natural and logical consequences in Part 1, this episode focuses on the most common mistakes parents make when using consequences and how those mistakes can unintentionally lead to power struggles instead of learning. Kyle and Sara explain why many consequences are actually punishment in disguise, and why connection and emotional safety must come before correction. When children feel safe and regulated, their brains are far more able to learn from their mistakes. They also discuss the difference between shame and accountability, why adult composure matters, and why consequences alone cannot teach the skills children need. To help parents think through their responses, they introduce the A.R.T. Filter, a simple way to evaluate whether a consequence is Appropriate, Respectful, and Teaching. Throughout the episode, Kyle and Sara emphasize a core principle of healthy discipline: the goal is not punishment but learning, growth, and preserving the relationship. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/consequences-that-work-without-power-struggles-common-mistakes-parents-make-with-consequences-part-2 Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.
Transcribe →Consequences That Work (Without Power Struggles): Natural vs. Logical Consequences in Parenting | Part 1
Mar 1600:32:16Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack one of the most misunderstood topics in parenting: consequences. Many parents are told to “just give consequences,” but few are taught which consequences actually help children learn and which ones quietly create more power struggles. Kyle and Sara explain the difference between natural consequences and logical consequences, and why understanding that distinction matters. Natural consequences allow children to experience real-life cause and effect, helping the brain connect actions with outcomes through lived experience. They also explore why many “logical consequences” parents use are actually punishment in disguise, and why consequences must remain calm, predictable, and directly related to behavior in order to support learning. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize an essential truth: discipline works best when it protects connection and preserves a child’s dignity. This episode lays the groundwork for understanding consequences more clearly and prepares listeners for Part 2, where Kyle and Sara explore the most common mistakes parents make when using consequences and how to avoid them. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/consequences-that-work-without-power-struggles-natural-vs-logical-consequences-in-parenting-part-1 Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.comVideo Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumansInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumansPodcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.comBook List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.
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