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In today’s episode, I’m doing a book review of How to Deal with Your ____ So Your Kids Don’t Have To by Eli Harwood. One of the things I loved most about this book is the reminder that good movement truly starts with US.Honestly, it’s not about perfection - it’s about growing our capacity to hold our own emotions, so we’re not unintentionally passing them on.If you’ve ever found yourself wondering how to better process your emotions, respond instead of react, or better support the people you love without carrying old patterns into your relationships, this one is a worthwhile read!If you enjoyed this episode and found it helpful, I’d love to hear from you. We might have to make book reviews a regular thing around here!In this episode, I cover:Why this book stood out as a top recommendation for beginning inner workHow processing our own emotions impacts parenting, relationships & everyday interactionsThe connection between emotional capacity and “good movement starts with us”The book’s practical structureWhy the encyclopedia-style format makes it easy to revisit specific struggles when neededMy personal favorite featuresWhy this book earned a full 10/10 recommendationMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/book-review-eli-harwoodConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:How to Deal with Your So Your Kids Don’t Have To by Eli HarwoodRaising Securely Attached Kids by Eli HarwoodFollow Eli Harwood on Instagram @attachmentnerdSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you - mention "castpod" when you book to receive 10% off!Check out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

Sometimes, the people who love us most say things with the very best intentions. Unfortunately, they can still land in a way that feels painful. In today's episode, I'm talking about what happens when well-meaning is actually dismissive. Through experiences like losing my dad, navigating cancer, and living through devastating fires, I've become more aware of how quick we are to search for silver linings or make someone feel better. At the end of the day, people don't always need us to have the "perfect" words. They need us to sit beside them, truly listen, and say, "I see you."If this conversation resonates and you're ready to go deeper on your healing journey, I'd love to support you. You can schedule a free 30-minute call with me to talk about 1:1 Good Movement Guidance. Make sure to mention "castpod" when you book to receive 10% off!In this episode, I cover:Why “well-meaning” responses can sometimes feel dismissiveCommon phrases that unintentionally gloss over grief or hard emotionsWhy validation matters more than silver linings in difficult momentsThe reminder that multiple experiences & perspectives can both be trueWhy we don’t get to choose our feelingsHow our own relationship with emotions shapes how we respond to othersRecognizing the urge to fix, solve, or rush someone toward feeling better + what to do insteadWhy holding space, listening & simply being present matters SO muchWhy others need your presence more than “perfect words” Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/when-well-meaning-is-dismissive Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

Something that so many people quietly carry (but often struggle to name) is the difference between guilt and shame. While those two emotions are commonly used interchangeably, they are actually VERY different. Understanding that difference can completely shift the way we move through hard emotions, relationships, and healing!In today’s episode, I’m diving into guilt and shame, and how they’re different. My hope is that this conversation reminds you that you are not bad, broken, or “weak” for being human.If you’re struggling with guilt and shame and are ready to go deeper on your healing journey, I’d love to support you. You can schedule a free 30-minute call with me to talk about what 1:1 Good Movement Guidance could look like for you. Make sure to mention “castpod” when you book to receive 10% off!In this episode, I cover:The difference between guilt and shameWhy guilt can lead to accountability, repair, and growthHow shame is often rooted in outside criticism, expectations & cultural messagingThe role “should” and “shouldn’t” play in reinforcing shameWhy needing help is not a weaknessHow shame thrives in secrecy + loses power when brought into the lightPractical ways to move through both guilt and shameWhy boundaries help protect your peace and emotional well-beingLearning to recognize whether you’re carrying guilt for an action or shame about yourself Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/guilt-and-shame Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, I’m talking about empathy and what it really means. It’s often talked about like it’s automatically a good thing. But honestly, empathy can be both a superpower and something that quietly wears us down when we aren’t intentional with it.As someone who has always felt deeply for other people, I’ve had to learn the difference between holding space for someone and trying to carry what was never mine to carry in the first place. Thankfully, inner work helped me recognize where healthy empathy ends and emotional over-responsibility begins.If you’re ready to dive deeper and do the “inner work” I talk about here often, I’d love to connect with you. Schedule a free 30-minute call with me, and let’s talk about 1:1 Good Movement Guidance. Don’t forget to mention “castpod” when you book to receive 10% off!In this episode, I cover:What empathy actually is (and what it isn’t)Why empathy can feel both beautiful and exhaustingThe difference between supporting someone vs. carrying their emotionsHow empathy can become unhealthy without self-awarenessWhat the “hold the herd” analogy entailsWhy emotional safety creates a stronger connectionHow exposure to different perspectives helps grow empathyThe importance of asking honest questionsWhy we should second-guess the stories we create about othersLearning to sort what’s yours to feel and what isn’t Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/empathy-what-does-it-mean Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, I’m talking about how to help someone who is grieving or going through a lot. I had a powerful moment from a recent Good Movement workshop, where one simple exercise (listening without trying to fix) felt surprisingly hard.Honestly, that makes sense. So many of us have been conditioned to respond with solutions, encouragement, or perspective. When someone is grieving or struggling, though, those responses can unintentionally feel dismissive instead of supportive.I hope this episode allows you to rethink how we can show up for others and for ourselves. Being seen, heard, and cared for in those moments is where the REAL healing begins!If you’re ready to go deeper and do this inner work for yourself, I’d love to connect with you. You can schedule a free 30-minute call with me to talk about what 1:1 Good Movement Guidance could look like for you. Make sure to mention “castpod” when you book to receive 10% off!In this episode, I cover:Why listening without fixing can feel so uncomfortable + why it mattersHow well-meaning phrases can unintentionally dismiss someone’s painThe power of simple, silent presence when someone is grievingWhat it actually looks like to “bear witness” to someone’s experienceHow validation helps people feel seen, heard, and supportedWhy we don’t get to decide the magnitude of someone else’s “hard”The tendency to avoid our own pain + why sitting with it matters Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/how-to-help-someone-grieving Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com Resources & Links:Let Your Life Speak by Parker J. PalmerSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, I’m talking about what boundaries actually require. Honestly, boundaries can be tricky. They often come with guilt, second-guessing, and that uncomfortable feeling that we might be letting someone down.Whether it’s saying no or stepping back, it can feel selfish, even when deep down we know it’s what we need. The truth is, boundaries aren’t about shutting others out; they’re about tuning into ourselves. They require self-awareness, honesty, and the willingness to listen to what our emotions are trying to tell us!Boundaries are the “fences” we put in place around our time, energy, and capacity. When we honor our boundaries, they create space for healthier, honest connections. They truly are one of THE kindest things we can do for ourselves + the people around us!In this episode, I cover:What boundaries can bring up + what they requireWhy boundaries are decisions for YOU (not rules for others)How boundaries define what’s acceptable for your time, energy & capacityWhy ignoring your limits leads to resentment and disconnectionHow holding boundaries creates healthier + more honest relationshipsWhy boundaries are one of the kindest things you can do for yourself & others Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/what-boundaries-actually-require Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com Resources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today's episode, licensed mental health therapist Victoria Mexcur is back to talk about disaster trauma recovery and processing grief. This conversation feels particularly timely after the recent fires here in Nebraska, and everything we’re still experiencing in the aftermath.While we focus a lot on the fires, this conversation applies to all kinds of situational trauma (i.e., loss, accidents, natural disasters, and other life-changing events).This episode is a reminder to please be patient with yourself and keep checking in on the people around you. Whether you’re currently in disaster trauma recovery or processing grief, please remember - all of this takes time. You do NOT have to rush your way through it!In this episode, we cover:Why the impact of trauma often unfolds in phasesHow the “heroic” phase after a crisis can temporarily mask grief through busyness + adrenalineWhy the hardest part often comes after support and attention begin to fadeWhy survivor’s guilt is often more accurately described as survivor’s shameRealizing you were doing the best you could with what you had in that momentKey signs to notice when someone is strugglingWhy nightmares, hypervigilance, crying & stress responses are normal after traumaWhy crying is one of the body’s natural ways of processing + releasing emotionUnderstanding that recovery is not linear + healing can take longer than you thinkWhat truly matters in the recovery processMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/disaster-trauma-recoveryConnect with Victoria:Follow on Instagram @tread_deepcounselingCheck out her websiteSend her an email at treaddeepcounseling@gmail.comReach out to her at (402) 403-9561Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Mental Health After WildfireRural Mental Health ResourcesCall or text the AgriStress Helpline at (833) 897-2474Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

There are moments in life that split time into before and after, and this is one of them.In today’s episode, Tom and I are recalling the Nebraska Ashby and Minor Fires. What stands out most during this time? The PEOPLE. Strangers were protecting each other and showing up simply because someone needed help. It’s humbling in a way that’s hard to explain, until you go through it!But experiences like this don’t end when the fire is out. They stay with you and need to be processed (slowly and honestly). If there’s anything I’m holding onto right now, it’s the reminder that we are NOT meant to carry this alone!In this episode, we cover:The Ashby and Minor fires + their start just hours after we thought the worst had passedWhy survival mode takes over when in crisisWhy evacuating with kids, animals & uncertainty is never something you’re fully prepared forWhy fighting the fire vs. supporting from afar both carry weight in different waysHow time completely blurs during traumaThe power of community showing up in incredible waysHow strangers stepped in to protect homes, land, and livesWhy the impact doesn’t simply “end” when the fire is outWhy PTSD & nervous system responses are real (for adults and kids)Getting support because you don’t have to carry something like this aloneMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/recalling-the-nebraska-firesConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Mental Health After WildfireRural Mental Health ResourcesSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In the span of just a few weeks, everything has changed. In today’s episode, I’m talking about what it feels like when “it” hits you like a ton of bricks. While everything looks okay right now, that’s not truly the case. The work continues because life keeps moving.What I’m really worried about is what will happen when things finally slow down, and everyone’s nervous systems are no longer in survival mode.Whether you’ve lived through something as visible as a wildfire, or something quieter (but still very heavy), you are NOT meant to go at it alone, friend. There is zero shame in asking for help, and honestly, it might be one of the most important things you can do for yourself + those around you!In this episode, I cover:How the Ashby Fire started suddenly and moved fast + how close it came to our homeMy gratitude for the safety of our home, animals, first responders & communityHow we’re still in survival mode, even though things may “look” okayWhy trauma doesn’t always hit in the momentMy experience with anxiety and physical symptomsTools I used to start my healing journey in 2020Why I knew I couldn’t carry everything alone & chose to seek support after losing my dad in 2023Understanding there is zero shame in asking for help because we’re NOT meant to do this aloneMake sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode!Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/ton-of-bricksConnect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Mental Health After WildfireRural Mental Health ResourcesConnect with Jada Dobesh on Instagram @jadadobeshhealingcoSchedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

In today’s episode, Tom and I are sharing what it’s like living through the largest fire in Nebraska history. This isn’t a polished or perfectly processed story. It’s still super fresh, and in many ways, we’re still IN it.What started as concern quickly turned into evacuation and long days of uncertainty. All of that turned into the very REAL possibility of losing not just land, but livelihood, animals, and a way of life that runs deep in this part of the country.This conversation isn’t about tying things up in a neat bow. We want to give an honest look into an experience that SO many in our state have been living, and also, create space for both gratitude and grief to exist at the same time.In this episode, we cover:The rapid shift from awareness to evacuation as the fires escalatedWhat those days looked like in real timeThe reality of protecting animals, land, and livelihood under pressureExperiencing the fire from 2 perspectivesThe emotional weight of leaving home without knowing what you’ll return toThe physical & mental toll of long days on the front linesWhy “it will grow back” overlooks the real human impactHolding both gratitude AND grief at the same timeThe adrenaline response + what happens when it wears offProcessing an experience that’s still fresh + the importance of empathy in crisis Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/largest-fire-in-nebraska-history Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.comResources & Links:Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for youCheck out my merch shopJoin the waitlist for the Good Movement CollectiveGood Movement music by: Aaron EspePodcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting