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Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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You built the life you were supposed to want. So why doesn't it feel like enough? Passion Struck is the #1 Health and Fitness podcast — and it exists to answer exactly that question. I'm John R. Miles — Navy veteran, former Fortune 50 executive, bestselling author — and I built this show because I lived the "successful but empty" version of life myself, and I wanted to find a better way. Each week, I sit down with the world's top voices in neuroscience, psychology, medicine, and elite performance — including Angela Duckworth, Susan Cain, Robert Waldinger, Daniel Amen, and Ryan Holiday — to unpack what the research tells us about purpose, connection, and resilience, and how to apply it to your own life. Fridays, I share what I'm learning directly, in solo episodes built around the same ideas. New interviews every Tuesday and Thursday. Solo episodes every Friday.
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The Science of Connection and Why We Underestimate Others | Nicholas Epley - EP 760
Apr 2800:59:04Summary readyWhat if the happiness, belonging, and meaning you are looking for is hiding in the conversations you never start?In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with social psychologist Nicholas Epley to explore why we consistently underestimate how much social interaction improves our lives. Drawing from his work and new book, A Little More Social, Nick reveals a profound paradox: while humans are wired for connection, we often choose solitude due to mistaken assumptions about how others will respond.They discuss the surprising benefits of talking to strangers, the psychology of reciprocity, and how tiny micro-choices of connection influence long-term happiness, health, and belonging. Nick also shares insights from his famous train studies and explains why loneliness is often fueled by a fear of rejection that does not align with reality.Key Discussion Points:The Paradox of Solitude: Understanding why we choose to be less social than we should be despite the clear happiness benefits of connection.The Train Study: Nick shares the research proving that talking to strangers leads to a more positive experience than sitting in silence.Misjudging Kindness: Why we consistently underestimate how much others will appreciate our reach-outs and how kindness is more common than we assume.The Psychology of Reciprocity: How small social risks lead to a "wordless tie" of mutual belonging and gratitude.Loneliness and Rejection: Why mistaken assumptions about how others perceive us create unnecessary barriers to closeness.Human Flourishing: How intentional social micro-choices serve the broader mission of building a life of significance and internal worth.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering. Check out full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/the-science-of-social-connection-nicholas-epley/Explore companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/science-of-human-connection-nicolas-epleyThank You to Our Sponsors Limited Time Offer – Get Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code PASSION at huel.com/passion. New customers only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show!Preorder Nick's Book, A Little More Social: https://sites.prh.com/a-little-more-socialConnect with John Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.
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The Identity Gravity Trap: Why We Snap Back to Old Habits | John R. Miles - EP 759
Apr 2400:27:02Summary readyDoes the silence of a new life feel like a threat to your safety?You’ve finally walked through the threshold, but the "silence" starts to itch. Suddenly, you feel a physical, vibrating urge to go back to being the "Fixer"—the version of you that is useful, busy, and predictable. That urge has a name: Identity Gravity.In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles explores the "Architecture of the Interior" and the psychological forces that pull us back into old orbits. Drawing on the external market systems discussed with Nobel Laureate Alvin Roth, the psychological flexibility frameworks of Dr. Diana Hill, and the raw "Identity Bankruptcy" of TOMS founder Blake Mycoskie, John explains how to achieve escape velocity.This is a deep dive into the neurobiology of the Default Mode Network (DMN) and the "Moral Economics" of the self. It’s time to stop being a tool for someone else’s convenience and learn how to break the identity gravity trap. Passion Struck is the #1 personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/how-to-break-identity-gravity/Explore the Identity Gravity Audit for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/how-to-break-identity-gravity-trapThank You to Our Sponsors. Limited Time Offer – Check out Function Health—160+ lab tests a year for $365. Join at https://www.functionhealth.com/tcm/passion or use gift code PASSION25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.Connect with John Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles Children’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/In this episode, John discusses:The Physics of the Snap-Back: Why your brain treats stillness like a biological threat and how "identity gravity" pulls you back to the grind.The Static of the DMN: Understanding why high-performers suppress the Default Mode Network and why its "re-boot" feels like anxiety instead of peace.Identity Bankruptcy: Lessons from Blake Mycoskie on the "gradual disappearance" that happens when your utility replaces your identity.The Repugnant Transaction of Being: Why sitting still feels like a moral betrayal when you’ve internalized a market that only values "doing."The Commoditized Human: Breaking the feedback loop that turns you into an interchangeable tool rather than an essential presence.The Boundary ADR: Using "Architectural Decision Records" to protect your time and reclaim the monopoly of your own presence.Achieving Escape Velocity: The three pillars of architectural rigor needed to break the snap-back effect and stay in your new orbit.Support the Movement: https://StartMattering.com Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.Connect with John Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.
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How to Manage Energy Not Time: Dr. Diana Hill on Wise Effort | EP 758
Apr 2300:56:45Summary readyWhat if the problem isn’t time management, but how you manage your energy?In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with psychologist Diana Hill to explore why energy management often matters more than time management—and how psychological flexibility can help you focus your effort on what truly matters.Drawing from her new book, Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most, Diana shares a transformative idea: Burnout often stems from directing your energy in ways misaligned with your values.We explore why high achievers often feel drained despite being productive, how “genius energy” can become either a strength or a liability, and how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy offers practical tools for shifting from urgency-driven striving to values-based action.We also dive into Diana’s powerful metaphors—from birds flying into windows to living from the back of the heart—and how small shifts in awareness can open entirely new ways of living.If you’ve ever felt exhausted while doing all the “right” things… this conversation will help you rethink effort itself.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/how-to-manage-energy-not-time-wise-effort/Explore companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.netThank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Get Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code PASSION at huel.com/passion. New Customers Only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show!Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/In This Episode, You Will Learn:Why managing energy often matters more than managing timeHow psychological flexibility helps prevent burnoutWhat Diana Hill means by Wise Effort—and how to practice itHow to identify when your strengths are becoming liabilitiesThe three-step method: Get Curious, Open Up, and RefocusHow “genius energy” can help you align effort with your deepest valuesWhy the path forward may require looking for a different open door—not flying harder at the same windowSupport the MovementLiving intentionally starts with directing your energy toward what matters.Explore tools, reflections, and frameworks to help you build an ignited life: https://www.theignitedlife.netDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.Connect with John Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.
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Nobel Laureate Alvin Roth: How Incentives Shape Your Life | EP 757
Apr 2100:56:24Summary readyWhat if the choices you make every day aren’t entirely your own?In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with Nobel Prize-winning economist Alvin Roth to explore how incentives, systems, and hidden structures shape human behavior—often in ways we don’t even realize.Drawing from his new book, Moral Economics: Why Good Incentives Are No Substitute for Good Citizens, Roth reveals a powerful truth: markets aren’t just about money—they are systems that decide who gets what, who gets access, and what society considers acceptable.We explore why banning certain behaviors often pushes them underground, how so-called “repugnant transactions” reveal our moral boundaries, and why understanding incentives is essential if you want to make better decisions—in your life, your work, and the systems you operate within.This conversation challenges how you think about choice, control, and responsibility—and offers a new lens for understanding the forces shaping your decisions every day.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/moral-economics-alvin-roth-market-design/Explore companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.netThank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Get Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code PASSION at huel.com/passion. New Customers Only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show!Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/In This Episode, You Will Learn:How incentives shape your decisions—often without you realizing itWhy markets are systems of allocation, not just exchangeWhat “repugnant transactions” reveal about society’s moral boundariesWhy banning something doesn’t eliminate it—it often creates black marketsHow hidden systems influence behavior in business, policy, and everyday lifeWhat it means to design better systems that align with human valuesSupport the MovementUnderstanding how systems shape behavior is the first step toward living more intentionally.Explore tools, insights, and frameworks to help you align your life with what truly matters: https://www.theignitedlife.netDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional, legal, or financial advice.Connect with John Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.
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Why We Circle Change (And How to Finally Step Through) | John R. Miles - EP 756
Apr 1700:17:46Summary readyDoes it ever feel like you’re waiting for your own life to start?You’re sitting in your car at the end of the day, staring at the front door, realizing you have to "gear up" just to walk inside. You’ve become a world-class manager of a life you’ve stopped inhabiting. You’re winning the efficiency game, but you’re losing the human one.In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles explores the psychology of resistance and the difficult move from utility to aliveness. He identifies why we choose the "known hell" of burnout over the "unknown heaven" of presence. Drawing on recent conversations with shadow-work expert Keila Shaheen and life-design pioneers Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, John explains how to break the "identity handcuffs" that tie our sense of worth to our productivity.This isn't about working harder—it's about the literal, physical courage it takes to cross the threshold from being a provider to being a presence. It’s time to stop circling the wall and finally step through the door.Passion Struck is the #1 personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here:Explore the daily reflection guide for this episode at:Thank You to Our Sponsors. Limited Time Offer – Check out Function Health—160+ lab tests a year for $365. Join at https://www.functionhealth.com/tcm/passion or use gift code PASSION25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/In this episode, John discusses:The Safety of the Squeeze: Why our nervous systems prefer the predictable exhaustion of the grind over the perceived threat of stillness.The Identity Handcuffs: How we’ve anchored our self-worth to our "utility" and why being needed is not the same as being known.The Grief of the Machine: Acknowledging the loss that occurs when you let the "super-producer" version of yourself die so the person can emerge.The Five-Second Threshold: Understanding the physical gap between knowing you should change and actually moving your hand to do it.Transition Rituals: How to use tiny, physical anchors—like touching a doorframe—to tell your nervous system that the manager is checking out.Reclaiming Agency: Why crossing the threshold is a private, quiet decision to stop seeking light from external approval.The Floor Beneath Your Feet: A sixty-second practice to shift from maintaining a structure to actually living within it.Support the Movement: https://StartMattering.comEvery human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.Connect with John Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.
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How Do You Design a Meaningful Life | Bill Burnett & Dave Evans - EP 755
Apr 1601:02:42Summary readyWhat if the reason you feel unfulfilled is that you’ve been approaching it all wrong?In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, the visionary minds behind Stanford's Life Design Lab and co-authors of How to Live a Meaningful Life. We tackle one of personal growth’s biggest myths: that meaning is something you find.Instead, Bill and Dave present a groundbreaking concept—meaning is something you design.We delve into why high-achievers often feel "fine but empty," why success doesn’t guarantee fulfillment, and how our transactional world traps us in outcomes over experiences. Our conversation uncovers a transformative framework for building a meaningful life through small experiments, curiosity, and intentional action, all without drastic life changes.This conversation will change how you think about purpose, passion, and what it really means to live fully alive.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/designing-a-meaningful-life/Explore companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/stop-planning-your-life-start-wayfindingThank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Check out Function Health—160+ lab tests a year for $365. Join at https://www.functionhealth.com/tcm/passion or use gift code PASSION25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/We also dive into:Why many feel “fine” outwardly, yet unfulfilled insideDistinguishing meaning, fulfillment, and happiness—and avoiding the confusionWhy “follow your passion” can mislead—and the better alternativeUsing design thinking and prototyping to cultivate purposeThe contrast between transactional and flow worlds—and where true meaning residesHow actions, rather than waiting, create clarityThe impact of small moments of awe and curiosity on lasting meaningThe vital role of community in the journey to meaningSupport the MovementEvery human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter.Wear it. Live it. Show it. https://StartMattering.comDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.Connect with John Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.
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From Shadow Work to Light Work: How to Actually Heal | Keila Shaheen - EP 754
Apr 1400:50:43Summary readyShadow work helps you uncover the hidden parts of yourself, but what happens after that?In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with Keila Shaheen, the million-copy bestselling author of The Shadow Work Journal, to explore the step most people miss: integration.While shadow work helps us confront the “invisible bag” of childhood wounds and hidden traits we carry, it is only part of the equation. Keila explains why true healing requires shifting from reflection to action—what she calls light work. We explore her newest book, The Light Work Journal, and how it helps people move out of the “gray area” of exhaustion into intentional awareness and energized living.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/light-work-journal-keila-shaheen-passion-struck/Explore companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.netResources & LinksExplore companion insights: https://www.theignitedlife.netThank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Check out Function Health— 160+ lab tests a year for $365. Join at https://www.functionhealth.com/tcm/passion or use gift code PASSION25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/We also dive into:Why so many people feel a sense of quiet disorientation—and how to move from reactive, autopilot living into clarityThe difference between System 1 vs. System 2 thinking and how it impacts your daily lifeWhy exhaustion—not anxiety or depression—is the dominant emotional state todayThe role of a healthy ego as a stabilizing force rather than something to eliminateHow noticing “glimmers” can rewire your mindset and shift your emotional baselinePractical ways to protect your energy and show up as your most authentic selfThis episode is a roadmap for anyone who has done the inner work but still feels stuck.Support the MovementEvery human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it. https://StartMattering.comDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not substitute professional medical or psychological advice.Connect with John Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.
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ROI of Aliveness: How to Craft the Math of a Meaningful Life | John R. Miles - EP 753
Apr 1000:26:59Summary readyDoes your life look successful on the outside but feel empty on the inside?In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles introduces a simple way to measure what truly matters: the ROI of Aliveness. Most of us spend our lives trying to be as productive as possible. We focus on checking off to-do lists and meeting everyone else's expectations, but we often forget to check in on ourselves.John explains why focusing only on your "output" leaves you feeling disconnected and replaceable. He shares a practical way to look at the "math" of your life—balancing the time you spend on chores with the time you spend truly being present. Featuring insights from experts like Arthur Brooks, Claude Steele, and Angela Maiers, this episode shows you how to stop living on autopilot and start building a life where you actually feel essential to the people around you.This isn't about working harder or doing more. It’s about making small, intentional shifts so your daily life actually feels like it belongs to you.Passion Struck is the #1 personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/roi-of-aliveness-math-of-a-life-that-matters/Explore the daily reflection guide for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/the-roi-of-alivenessThank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Get Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code PASSION at huel.com/passion. New Customers Only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show!Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/In This Episode, We Discuss:The Meaning Gap: Why having a "good life" on paper doesn't always lead to feeling happy or valued.The Productivity Trap: How the pressure to always be "busy" keeps us from noticing what’s actually important.Feeling Replaceable: Why we often feel like anyone could do our job or handle our chores—and how to change that.Simple Lessons from the Classroom: How two basic ideas from kindergarten can help you feel more connected at work and at home.The 10% Shift: A realistic way to reclaim your time and energy by making tiny changes to your daily routine.Better Leadership: How to create an environment where your team (and your family) feels seen and needed.Support the MovementEvery human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it. https://StartMattering.comDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.Connect with John Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions
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Why You Feel Like You Don’t Matter (And How to Fix It) | Angela Maiers - EP 752
Apr 901:22:46Summary readyWhat if the question underneath everything in your life is this: Do I matter?In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with Angela Maiers to explore one of the most fundamental human needs—the need to feel seen, valued, and needed.For decades, Angela has studied what makes people feel seen, valued, and needed—and what happens when they don’t. What she’s found is simple, but powerful: when people stop feeling like they matter, everything else begins to break down.We talk about how this starts earlier than most people think, why so many adults tie their worth to performance, and how that shows up later as burnout, disconnection, and disengagement.We also explore the difference between belonging and mattering—and why being included isn’t the same as feeling significant.Most importantly, Angela shares what actually helps people feel like they matter—and it’s not complicated. It’s in how we show up, how we listen, and how we make others feel seen. Pick up a copy of Angela's children's book M is for Mattering.This conversation will change how you think about your relationships, your work, and the way you show up in the world.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here:Explore companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.netThank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Get Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code PASSION at huel.com/passion. New Customers Only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show!Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/In This Episode, You Will Learn:What makes someone feel like they truly matter—and why being needed is at the center of itHow early we begin tying our worth to performance instead of presenceWhy burnout, loneliness, and disengagement often have a deeper rootThe difference between belonging and mattering—and why it matters more than we thinkWhat causes people to feel invisible at work, even when they’re performingSimple ways to help someone feel seen, valued, and neededSupport the MovementEvery human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it. https://StartMattering.comDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.Connect with John Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.
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Churn: The Hidden Force Shaping How We See Each Other | Claude Steele - EP 751
Apr 701:05:26Summary readyWhat if one of the biggest barriers to connection, performance, and trust isn’t prejudice—but something more subtle, more pervasive, and harder to detect?In this powerful episode of the Passion Struck podcast, I sit down with renowned social psychologist Claude Steele to explore his groundbreaking new book, Churn.Claude introduces the concept of churn—the internal psychological state we experience in high-stakes situations when we worry about how we might be judged based on our identity. Whether in classrooms, workplaces, medical settings, or everyday interactions, churn silently shapes how we show up, how we perform, and how we relate to others.We explore how churn differs from bias, why it can be just as corrosive, and how even well-intentioned people can become trapped in cycles of hesitation, misinterpretation, and disconnection. Most importantly, Claude reveals a hopeful path forward—how trust, “wiseness,” and simple human behaviors like listening and belief can dramatically reduce churn and unlock human potential.This conversation will change how you see your interactions—and give you practical tools to build deeper trust in a divided world.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering. It is consistently ranked among the top health, mindset, and business podcasts worldwide.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/claude-steele-churn-hidden-psychology-of-trust/Explore guided reflections and companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/what-is-churn-claude-steele-trust-identity Thank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Get Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code PASSION at huel.com/passion. New Customers Only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show!Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/In This Episode, You Will Learn:What “Churn” Really Is: Why high-stakes situations trigger a hidden psychological tension rooted in identity and perception—and how it differs from ordinary anxiety.The Power of Stereotype Threat: How decades of research, first introduced in Whistling Vivaldi, reveal the invisible forces shaping performance and behavior.Why Good Intentions Aren’t Enough: How even well-meaning people can hesitate, withdraw, or miscommunicate—not because of bias, but because of churn.The Role of High-Stakes Environments: Why churn intensifies in moments that matter—job interviews, classrooms, medical settings, and leadership decisions.Trust as the Antidote: How simple signals—like belief in someone’s potential—can dissolve ambiguity and unlock performance and connection.“Wiseness” Explained: What it means to truly see the full humanity in others—and how this mindset transforms relationships across differences.Support the MovementEvery human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it. https://StartMattering.comDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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