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Adult Child
Hosted by Andrea Ashley · EN
Adult Child dives deep into the lasting effects of growing up in dysfunctional families—unpacking complex and relational trauma, codependency, toxic shame, and addiction patterns with raw vulnerability and unapologetic authenticity.
Hosted by Andrea Ashley, a recovering shitshow with 17 years sober, each episode shares unfiltered insights, expert conversations, and practical tools to heal your nervous system and break free from the cycles that hold you back.
Whether you’re an adult child of alcoholics or from a dysfunctional family, navigating toxic relationships, or healing your inner child, this is your no-BS space for healing. New episodes every Wednesday & Saturday.
And damn the join The Shitshow Healing Community for live support groups and connection with fellow cycle breakers.
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SHITSHOW SATURDAY #147 - Ashlie T.
Mar 29, 202500:48:19Summary readyBREATHE TO HEAL: A 6-Week Journey of Somatic Release - Get your spot here LIMITED CAPACITY --> adultchildpodcast.com/breathetoheal⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpod⚠️Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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The Healing Sequence: Denial, Awareness, Acceptance & Action (ACA Steps 1-3)
Mar 26, 202500:57:45Summary readyEver felt trapped by your past? Today we are peeling back the layers of family dysfunction, revealing how to reclaim control and begin healing.In this raw and revealing episode, Andrea is tackling Steps 1-3 of the ACA program, which can be summed up as - "I see it, I own it, I change it."Step 1: I see it - Acknowledging and admitting the depth and impact of the dysfunction experienced in childhood.Step 2: I own it - Embracing the belief that healing and transformation are possible when you take personal responsibility for your recovery journey.Step 3: I can change it - Making a decisive move to actively seek and accept the support and tools necessary to facilitate change and growth.Learn how to navigate the complex emotions tied to recognizing family dysfunction, discover the tools that can help stabilize⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpod⚠️Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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SHITSHOW SATURDAY #146 - The Return of Sandra K.
Mar 22, 202501:01:37Summary readyListen to Sandra's first Shitshow Saturday episode here!⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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The Neuroscience Behind Toxic Shame: Pathways to Healing w/ Robyn Gobbel
Mar 19, 202501:05:01Summary readyBREATHE TO HEAL: A 6-Week Journey of Somatic Release - Get your spot here LIMITED CAPACITY --> adultchildpodcast.com/breathetohealToxic shame isn’t just a feeling—it’s a state of being, hardwired into our nervous system through childhood experiences. Let's break down the neuroscience behind toxic shame and see how we can begin to rewire our brains for healing.Robyn Gobbel is a psychotherapist specializing in relational neuroscience, translating complex brain science into practical strategies for parents and professionals. She authored "Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors," providing insights into understanding and addressing challenging child behaviors. Key Takeaways:What Makes Shame Toxic? Unlike guilt or healthy shame, toxic shame makes you believe you are fundamentally flawed, not just that you made a mistake.How Toxic Shame Gets Wired Into the Brain Early experiences of misattunement, neglect, or invalidation shape how we see ourselves and stay locked in our nervous system.Rewiring Shame Through Disconfirming Experiences Healing requires new, safe experiences that contradict old shame-based expectations of rejection and abandonment.Why We Keep Recreating Trauma in Relationships Our brains unconsciously seek familiar dynamics, hoping for a different outcome—but healing means consciously breaking those cycles.The Role of Memory Reconsolidation in Healing We can rewire our brain’s response to shame by reshaping how we store and process painful past experiences.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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SHITSHOW SATURDAY #145 - Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs
Mar 15, 202500:41:15Tap to summarizeBREATHE TO HEAL: A 6-Week Journey of Somatic Release - Get your spot here LIMITED CAPACITY --> adultchildpodcast.com/breathetoheal⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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The Relationship Recovery Process: Navigating Childhood Trauma w/ Patrick Teahan
Mar 12, 202500:59:49Summary readyBREATHE TO HEAL: A 6-Week Journey of Somatic Release - Get your spot here LIMITED CAPACITY --> adultchildpodcast.com/breathetohealPatrick Teahan is a licensed independent clinical social worker and childhood trauma specialist who helps adults heal from dysfunctional family dynamics. Through his Through his online community and YouTube channel, he guides people in breaking free from toxic patterns, reclaiming intimacy, and building healthier relationships., he guides people in breaking free from toxic patterns, reclaiming intimacy, and building healthier relationships.Patrick’s Rock Bottom & Healing Journey – He gets real about the moment everything clicked and how he clawed his way out of the mess of childhood trauma.WTF is the Relationship Recovery Process? – Patrick breaks down his two-part therapy model that helps people finish business with their past and actually build real, healthy relationships.Inner Child Work That Actually Works – Why talking to your inner child isn’t just woo-woo nonsense, but a legit way to stop self-sabotaging and start healing.Group Therapy: Scary or Transformative? – How stepping into a group setting can fast-track healing, bring validation, and prove you’re not alone in this mess.Family Boundaries & Breaking Free – The hard truth about cutting ties, setting boundaries, and finally choosing yourself over toxic family dynamics.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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SHITSHOW SATURDAY #144 - Navigating Divorce & Separation
Mar 8, 202500:46:05Tap to summarizeBREATHE TO HEAL: A 6-Week Journey of Somatic Release - Get your spot here LIMITED CAPACITY --> adultchildpodcast.com/breathetoheal⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Treating Nervous System Dysregulation: Somatic Healing for CPTSD w/ Irene Lyon
Mar 5, 202501:13:43Summary readyBREATHE TO HEAL: A 6-Week Journey of Somatic Release - Get your spot here LIMITED CAPACITY --> adultchildpodcast.com/breathetohealExplore how a lifetime of chronic stress and fear can lead to nervous system dysregulation, and how somatic healing can help rewire our responses to trauma. Dive into this episode to uncover the transformative power of understanding and healing our deepest unseen wounds.Irene Lyon, MSC, is a renowned nervous system specialist and master somatic practitioner who has dedicated her career to understanding and teaching the intricacies of somatic neuroplasticity. With a deep foundation in the Feldenkrais Method and Somatic Experiencing, her work integrates extensive personal experience with decades of professional practice, making complex concepts accessible and actionable for healing complex trauma from childhood.Trauma and Nervous System Dysregulation: How childhood trauma & CPTSD manifests as adult nervous system dysregulation, impacting emotional health and behavior.Somatic Healing's Role: Why somatic healing is essential for addressing both physical and emotional traumas stored in our bodies for true recovery.Building Internal Safety: Understand the importance of creating a sense of safety within to overcome feelings of unworthiness and enable healing.Transforming Beliefs through Somatic Practices: Discover how somatic practices can help dismantle deep-rooted beliefs of unworthiness, fostering a sense of deservedness and recovery.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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SHITSHOW SATURDAY #143 - Terry O.
Mar 1, 202500:52:05Tap to summarizeBREATHE TO HEAL: A 6-Week Journey of Somatic Release - Get your spot here LIMITED CAPACITY --> adultchildpodcast.com/breathetoheal⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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190 - The Purpose of Our Pain: IFS Therapy to Heal Complex Trauma w/ Tammy Sollenberger
Feb 26, 202501:19:04Tap to summarizeBREATHE TO HEAL: A 6-Week Journey of Somatic Release - Get your spot here LIMITED CAPACITY --> adultchildpodcast.com/breathetohealWhat if the behaviors that cause you the most pain are actually trying to help you? Or what if those harsh voices in your head are not your enemies, but protectors that have gone off course?Tammy Sollenberger is a certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist, the host of The One Inside: An IFS Podcast, as well as the author of "The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self."Nervous System Regulation in IFS: Understand the critical role of nervous system regulation in managing polarized parts and overcoming functional freezeReframing Internal Struggles: IFS therapy reveals how behaviors causing distress are protective parts, aiming to safeguard our well-being.Healing and Integration: Discuss the power of IFS to heal childhood wounds and address dysfunctional family dynamics, fostering a better integration of all self-parts.Tammy's Therapeutic Insights: Insights from Tammy's personal and professional journey through IFS show its transformative impact on therapy, relationships and parenting.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and 24/7 chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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