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Becoming UnDone® with Dr. Toby Brooks
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Hosted by professor, speaker, and performance & comeback scientist Dr. Toby Brooks (@drtobybrooks), Becoming UnDone® is where high-achievers come to reckon with rock bottom—and rise again. Every week, we explore what happens when life doesn’t go according to plan. Through raw stories, vulnerable insights, and powerful conversations, we dive into the pain of identity loss, the paralysis of burnout, and the transformative power of coming apart.
This isn’t just about failure. It’s about what you do next.
Whether you’re an executive questioning your purpose, an athlete facing the end, or a leader secretly unraveling, this show is your reminder: the coming apart isn’t the end of the story—it’s the beginning of something greater. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “What in the hell next?”—you’re in the right place.
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160 | Living the Dream, Working with NBA Stars, and Building a Brand on Your Terms with Dr. Tyler Lesher
2w ago01:13:20Summary readyAbout the GuestDr. Tyler Lesher is an accomplished NBA performance therapist and former athletic trainer. With a diverse background that spans working with elite teams like the Cavaliers, Hornets, and UCLA, Tyler's experience in athletic performance and sports medicine is extensive. He has been involved in developing high-performance training regimens for athletes across various levels and sports, leveraging his expertise to also build a substantial online presence and business. Tyler's transition from his traditional role into a more entrepreneurial space is a testament to his innovative approach and dedication to the industry.Episode SummaryIn this episode of Becoming UnDone® , host Dr. Toby Brooks engages with Dr. Tyler Lesher, a renowned NBA performance therapist, to explore his extraordinary career path and personal growth in the field of athletic training. Tyler recounts his journey from humble beginnings in Wyoming to working with world-class athletes at the pinnacle of professional sports. His narrative unveils the passion and perseverance that have shaped his professional trajectory, moving through network connections, leveraging opportunities, and strategically transitioning from sports team roles to developing his own enterprise and social media presence.The episode delves into Tyler's insights on the challenges and opportunities within athletic training. He boldly highlights systemic issues in the industry, such as undercompensation and limited recognition, and underscores the value of side hustles and self-marketing as crucial tools for career sustainability and growth. Tyler also shares candid moments from his personal life that have informed his resilience and dedication. His story illustrates the often complex blend of identity, professional aspirations, and personal evolution.Key TakeawaysLeveraging Networks: Tyler's career trajectory exemplifies the importance of building robust professional networks, which can open doors to unforeseen opportunities.Industry Challenges: The talk highlights systemic issues in athletic training like low pay and high demands, challenging aspiring professionals to think creatively about circumventing these hurdles.Value of Social Media: Emphasizing that social media isn't just recreational but a potent professional tool. It can effectively function as a modern resume, enhancing visibility and career prospects.The Power of Reinvention: Tyler showcases how embracing change and being willing to pivot professionally can lead to fulfilling work and personal growth.Mental Resilience: Sharing his personal losses, Tyler underscores the vital role of resilience and personal health in navigating challenging professional and personal landscapes.Notable Quotes"Have you ever noticed that some of life's biggest transitions don't happen because we failed? Sometimes they happen because we succeed." - Dr. Toby Brooks"You need to have your own side hustle, your job is not enough." - Dr. Tyler Lesher"This was always the goal from the beginning." - Dr. Tyler Lesher"Life doesn't stop, business doesn't stop, sports don't stop." - Dr. Tyler LesherResourcesDr. Tyler Lesher on Instagram: Dr. T. LeshAdvanced Rehab Certification: ARC WebsiteConnect with Dr. Toby Brooks on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn: @DrTobyBrooksScience of the ComebackListeners are encouraged to immerse themselves in this thought-provoking episode that navigates the intersection of professional ambition and personal revelation. Join in to glean insights from Tyler's experiences and discover how steadfast resilience and proactive reinvention can illuminate new paths to success. Stay tuned for more transformative discussions on Becoming Undone.Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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159 | The Art of Discipline: Dre Baldwin’s Blueprint for Success
3w ago01:14:04Summary readyAbout the GuestDre Baldwin, also known as Dre All Day, is a former professional basketball player turned entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker. With a nine-year career in professional basketball, Dre has transitioned into a highly influential voice in mindset development, discipline, and mental toughness. He is the founder of “Work on Your Game,” a company providing tools and techniques for personal development and success. Dre has authored several books and conducts workshops focusing on confidence-building, entrepreneurial pursuits, and performance improvement.Episode SummaryIn this insightful episode of Becoming UnDone® with host Toby Brooks, former professional basketball player Dre Baldwin shares his extraordinary journey from an overlooked high school athlete to a successful nine-year professional basketball career. Dre explains the drive and discipline needed to achieve his childhood dream of playing at a professional level despite facing numerous challenges. This episode offers an in-depth look at how Dre transitioned from being an athlete to establishing himself as an entrepreneur, leveraging his sports discipline to succeed in the business world. Dre delves into the mindset and execution strategies that underpin his philosophy, articulated through his company "Work on Your Game." Drawing parallels between his sports career and entrepreneurial ventures, Dre discusses the importance of discipline, mental toughness, and personal initiative in achieving long-term success. He emphasizes the power of building confidence through consistent effort and dedication, stating, "When you don't want to do the work anymore… you stop feeling the sense of loss when you're not doing it, you know it's time to transition." This episode is not only an engaging story of persistence and transformation but also an inspirational guide to developing a future-ready mindset.Key TakeawaysPivot with Purpose: Dre Baldwin effectively demonstrates how one can prepare for and transition to a new career while still thriving in a current one.Discipline Over Confidence: Baldwin emphasizes that discipline is a precursor to confidence, dispelling the myth that confidence is the starting point of success.Embracing Change: Instead of fearing change, Dre sees it as a vital component of growth and encourages others to prepare themselves for eventual transitions.Resources in Rejection: Dre discusses how initial setbacks with basketball teams fueled his drive, shaping his future in both athletics and entrepreneurship.Mentorship Matters: By implementing advice from mentors and gaining results, Dre illustrates the importance of being proactive in personal and professional development.Notable Quotes"When you don't want to do the work anymore… you stop feeling the sense of loss when you're not doing it, you know it's time to transition.""Confidence is often the result of action, not the prerequisite for it.""Discipline is not a personality trait. It's a behavior descriptor of action.""You can like LeBron, but you cannot relate to LeBron.""When you did what I told you to do… that validated that the information I was giving out wasn't useless."ResourcesDre Baldwin's Company: Work on Your GameDre Baldwin on Social Media: Dre All DayBooks Mentioned: "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" by Robert Kiyosaki"Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon HillHost Toby Brooks' Socials: Toby Brooks, PhD on LinktreeImmerse yourself in this episode to uncover more about Dre Baldwin's journey and gain insight into the intricacies of transitioning careers while maximizing personal growth and discipline. Stay tuned for future episodes bringing you more transformative stories and powerful insights.Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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158 | Unravel Your Guilt: The Hidden Power of Embracing the Fourth Quarter: W3W
Jun 500:17:30Summary readyAbout the HostDr. Toby Brooks is a renowned professor, author, speaker, and performance scientist with over 20 years of experience as an athletic trainer and strength coach, spanning professional, college, and high school levels. His current focus lies in studying high achievers, understanding their unique attributes, and how setbacks can be transformed into success. As the host of the podcast Becoming UnDone® , Toby shares insights and lessons from his extensive career, providing listeners with a deeper understanding of personal growth and achievement.Episode SummaryIn this episode of Becoming UnDone® , Dr. Toby Brooks dives into the metaphor of the fourth quarter, drawing insights from both his personal experiences and a well-known parable. With a focus on understanding the importance of perseverance and recognizing growth opportunities, Toby offers a fresh perspective on the inherent guilt and responsibility often felt by coaches, mentors, and leaders when their efforts don't yield visible results. He recounts a conversation with Chris McCormick, a former Division 1 strength coach turned pastor, whose words on pressure and formation have continuously influenced Toby's outlook on personal and professional growth.The podcast delves into the Parable of the Sower from Matthew 13, reflecting on how the farmer's lack of concern over unsuccessful seeds imparts a vital lesson on recognizing where true responsibility lies. Toby eloquently discusses how leaders shouldn't feel burdened by outcomes they can't control and highlights the significance of focusing efforts on those ready to accept change, termed as the "fourth quarter" in this context. Listeners are encouraged to recognize their own fruitful engagements, celebrate their impact, and let go of frustration over the seeds that don't take root.Key TakeawaysLeaders should focus on their "fourth quarter," celebrating the growth and success of those ready to accept change.The Parable of the Sower serves as an essential metaphor, illustrating how results often are beyond one's control.Emotional resilience in leadership is vital, as individuals aren't responsible for outcomes when readiness isn't present.Continuous self-assessment and reflection can help redirect efforts towards areas where growth is possible.Trusting the process and letting go of the results frees leaders from unnecessary guilt and empowers persistence.Notable Quotes"Pressure's gonna expose what's forming.""The farmer isn't in therapy over the rocky ground.""Some soil just isn't meant for us.""The harvest isn't there. My harvest is in the fourth quarter.""Stop measuring your success by the first three quarters and start celebrating the heck out of your fourth."ResourcesDr. Toby Brooks' website: tobybrooksphd.comChris McCormick, pastor at Reliant Church"State of Your Life" survey available at Toby Brooks’ websiteUpcoming guest Dre Baldwin's achievements and worksListen to this thought-provoking episode to gain insightful perspectives on leadership, growth, and the importance of identifying and celebrating your own "fourth quarter." Stay tuned to Becoming UnDone® for more compelling discussions and expert guests.Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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157 | Finding Identity Beyond Achievement: Courtney Beck Dreams Big, Goes Bold
May 1701:11:35Summary readyAbout the GuestCourtney Beck is a former elite gymnast and NCAA All-American at the University of Florida, where she was a part of two SEC championship teams. A high achiever in academics as well, she has earned multiple master's degrees and a PhD in sport management. In addition to her impressive athletic and academic achievements, Courtney is a corporate leader and founder of the "Plenty of Positivity" podcast. Currently, she serves as an adjunct professor and is an esteemed voice on positivity and resilience, focusing on community building and personal development.Episode SummaryIn this illuminating episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks engages with Dr. Courtney Beck, who shares her remarkable journey from elite gymnastics to academia and entrepreneurship. Courtney opens with her initial foray back into gymnastics after a three-year break, recalling how her resilience and determination enabled her to walk on to the University of Florida's gymnastics team. This transformative experience set the foundation for her fearless approach to life. The discussion ventures into her post-athletic career, shedding light on Courtney's struggles and eventual triumphs as she navigated identity shifts and new opportunities.As the episode unfolds, Courtney delves into how she transitioned from a structured, perfection-driven athletic identity to master the realm of business, academia, and eventually, social entrepreneurship. She speaks candidly about the importance of continuous learning and setting intentions that align with one's inner values. Courtney introduces her concept of positivity, advocating for choosing a positive mindset every day, while acknowledging life’s challenges and setbacks. This conversation is an inspiring testament to how embracing the unseen moments of struggle and growth can lead to new beginnings that better align with one’s true self.Key TakeawaysFearlessness and Boldness: Emphasizing the importance of taking the first step, no matter how intimidating, can lead to valuable life lessons and personal growth.Transitioning Identities: Successfully navigating the shift from athlete to professional requires accepting change and finding new purposes.Building a Positive Mindset: Real, impactful positivity starts with acknowledging life's challenges and choosing how to respond to them every day.Evolving Through Challenges: Courtney’s journey shows how vulnerability and resilience in the face of challenges can open the door to new, fulfilling paths.Community and Connection: Creating supportive environments and networks is crucial for personal development and overcoming isolation, as demonstrated by Courtney's initiatives.Notable Quotes"Never be afraid to take that first step. And if it was not for her allowing me to walk onto that team, I don't quite know if I would have that sense of fearlessness.""I'm Courtney Beck, and I am Undone.""I was out, I was holding on to how do I still pull the quote, exercise as my form of gymnastics and sense of sport into it.""Let go of that ego, letting go of all the titles when I would introduce myself but feeling comfortable in the unknown.""The whole concept behind Plenty of Positivity was…every story I was reading was sheer negativity."ResourcesCourtney Beck on LinkedIn: Courtney BeckPlenty of Positivity Podcast: Courtney's Podcast WebsiteDive into this episode for a deep understanding of how Courtney Beck's story exemplifies resilience and positivity, offering insights that inspire transformation. Stay tuned for more enriching content from Becoming UnDone®.Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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156 | The Concussion That Changed Everything: Dr. Shawn Eagle's Path to Purpose
May 300:55:39Summary readyAbout the GuestDr. Shawn Eagle is an assistant professor in the Department of Neurological Surgery at the University of Pittsburgh, where he is regarded as a global expert on concussion and traumatic brain injury. With more than 150 peer-reviewed publications, Dr. Eagle’s work has significantly influenced how concussion and brain injuries are understood, treated, and recovered from. His journey from a collegiate athlete suffering injuries to a prominent researcher underscores his dedication to improving athletes' lives and health outcomes through cutting-edge research.Episode SummaryIn this episode of Becoming UnDone® , Dr. Shawn Eagle joins host Toby Brooks to discuss the intricate journey from athlete to renowned concussion expert. Dr. Eagle candidly recounts his own experiences with sports injuries during his undergraduate years and how they inadvertently steered him toward a groundbreaking career in traumatic brain injury research. His story is a testament to resilience, underscoring significant themes of identity, failure, and ultimately redemption. The conversation delves into the science behind concussion and how modern treatments have evolved to provide more effective recovery pathways.The episode also highlights the importance of understanding the long-term effects of concussions, particularly in athletes, and how early interventions can make a significant difference. This informative dialogue not only sheds light on critical advancements in concussion research but also serves as an inspiration for those grappling with personal and professional setbacks. Toby Brooks and Dr. Eagle reflect on personal growth, the power of perseverance, and the evolving landscape of sports medicine, attracting listeners interested in sports science, personal development, and medical innovation.Key TakeawaysPersonal experiences with injuries can pave the way for future professional paths, as demonstrated by Dr. Eagle’s shift from athlete to researcher.Modern concussion treatment emphasizes immediate activity and symptom monitoring, moving away from outdated practices like prolonged rest in dark rooms.Athletic trainers play a critical role in concussion management due to their proximity and understanding of athletes' baseline behaviors.CTE (Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy) narratives often overshadow the treatability and hope associated with concussions.Resilience and adaptability are vital, as illustrated by Dr. Eagle's career journey and dedication to advancing science in traumatic brain injuries.Notable Quotes"I think this is a big part why I'm so passionate about the CTE side of things; I don't know what I would be without football.""I want people to understand that the brain is plastic and will respond and can respond.""Athletic trainers are kind of perfectly trained to manage concussion in the modern understanding…""For Sean, it wasn't just an injury. It was confusion, anxiety, a sense that something wasn't right.""The very thing that could have been the end of his story as an athlete became the beginning of his purpose."ResourcesUniversity of Pittsburgh, Department of Neurological SurgeryDr. Shawn Eagle on LinkedInDive into this enlightening episode to explore how overcoming setbacks can lead to profound personal and professional transformation. Stay tuned for more compelling content from Becoming UnDone®.Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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155 | Transforming Trials into Triumphs: US Olympian Sarah Warren's Journey to Becoming Undone
Apr 2601:05:46Summary readyAbout the GuestSarah Warren is a U.S. Olympic speed skater who competed in the 2026 Milan Cortina Winter Games. Before embarking on her skating career, Sarah was a Division 1 soccer player at the University of Illinois. Her journey to the Olympics was marked by resilience and determination, overcoming ten surgeries, including multiple ACL surgeries. Beyond her athletic endeavors, Sarah has aspirations of becoming an orthopedic surgeon, inspired by the impact of her own medical experiences.Episode SummaryIn this episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks delves into the inspiring journey of U.S. Olympian Sarah Warren. Known for her exceptional speed skating prowess, Sarah's path to the pinnacle of Olympic success was set against a backdrop of considerable adversity. From her beginnings as a Division 1 soccer player to overcoming significant physical challenges, including ten surgeries, Sarah's story is a testament to resilience, community support, and finding strength amid setbacks. Sarah articulates how her journey through pain and doubt shaped her identity and spurred her toward her Olympic dreams, painting a vivid picture of personal growth and grit.Throughout the episode, Toby and Sarah explore the importance of mindset and community in overcoming challenges. As Sarah shares candid moments from her recovery and training, listeners gain insights into the mental fortitude required to navigate high-stakes sports amid injuries. The conversation also highlights Sarah's future aspirations in orthopedic surgery, drawing a parallel between her sports achievements and her professional goals. As Toby unpacks Sarah's narrative, key themes surface around resilience, positivity, and the transformative power of adversity—making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking motivation or a deeper understanding of what it takes to triumph against the odds.Key TakeawaysResilience in Adversity: Sarah Warren's story underscores the power of mental toughness and persistence in overcoming physical injuries and challenges in sports.Community Support: The role of family, friends, and community is crucial in navigating and rising above setbacks, providing a support system that contributes significantly to success.Finding Purpose in Adversity: Challenges and setbacks can serve as opportunities for growth, shaping one's identity and future aspirations.Mindset is Key: Approaching challenges with a positive, solution-focused mindset can lead to breakthroughs in both performance and personal development.Career Transitions: Sarah's transition from competitive sports to her aspirations in orthopedic surgery illustrates the alignment of personal experiences with future professional goals.Notable Quotes"I got humbled with that first ACL. It was not a typical ACL… And that it was my worst fear.""The Olympic dream was very alive for four and a half years and about for a month and a half, it almost died.""It's hard. It is very tempting to not want to be a bother… But honestly, no matter what, whether you achieve the goals that you initially set out or not.""It's very easy to look at destination. But no matter what, if you're working through that journey and you work through those challenges, you have proven to yourself.""If you don't see a light at the end of the tunnel, it's possible. And if that means one athlete believes in themselves again."ResourcesFollow Sarah Warren on her journey on Instagram.Learn more about the podcast, Becoming UnDone®, at undonepodcast.com.Listen to previous episodes featuring other high-achievers in sports and performance.Embark on this engaging episode as Sarah Warren shares heReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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154 | Courageous Career Changes: Embracing Uncertainty and New Beginnings with Pastor & Coach Chris McCormick
Apr 1200:56:36Summary readyAbout the GuestChris McCormick is a former Division 1 strength and conditioning coach who worked at Gardner-Webb University and Florida Atlantic University. Throughout his career, he played a crucial role in athlete preparation and development, initially with aspirations of ascending to an Athletic Director role. However, McCormick's journey took an unexpected turn when he transitioned from collegiate sports to full-time ministry. Today, he serves as the lead pastor at Reliant Church, passionately investing in spiritual growth and fostering community, leveraging his strengths as a coach to guide his congregation.Episode SummaryIn this episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks delves into the transformative journey of Chris McCormick, a former Division 1 strength and conditioning coach who transitioned into ministry. The conversation opens up with Chris's journey of how he achieved his dream job but found himself disillusioned and striving for more fulfillment. Brooks and McCormick explore how pivotal experiences, such as family commitments and community engagements, guided Chris toward a spiritual calling, eventually leading him to become the lead pastor at Reliant Church.Throughout the episode, themes of identity and purpose take center stage. McCormick shares intimate reflections on the pressures and expectations that come with high-performance roles in sports, shining a light on burnout and the internal struggle of aligning personal values with professional aspirations. He candidly discusses the crossroads he faced during the COVID-19 pandemic and how it steered him toward a path of church planting and community leadership. The adaptation from cultivating physical strength to nurturing spiritual growth highlights Chris's inspiring pivot and the newfound significance he finds in pastoral work.Key TakeawaysIdentity beyond profession: Chris McCormick illustrates the challenge of disentangling personal identity from professional roles, learning through his journey that he was not defined by his position as a coach.Navigating career transitions: The episode explores the emotional and spiritual journey of pivoting from a career in collegiate sports to pursuing full-time ministry, driven by a deeper purpose.The impact of burnout: Reflecting on his path, McCormick discusses how burnout and pressures in his former roles demanded careful evaluation and ultimately, a career shift.The essence of adaptability: Chris's journey highlights adaptability and resilience, showing how skills accrued in one profession can fuel success in another.Purposeful living: Emphasizing his faith journey, McCormick inspires listeners with the message that profound change is possible when following a higher calling.Notable Quotes"Gardner-Webb was like everything I ever wanted in a job. And it was like it wasn't what I wanted it to be.""Pressure is going to essentially expose what's forming you. And once we figure that out, it might be a good thing or a bad thing.""There was such an excitement about this new venture jumping out.""If you don't love every single thing about it, you will get swallowed up.""You are not your job, and you will be replaced in a heartbeat if you think you're more important than you really are."Resources:Reliant ChurchChris McCormick on LinkedInThis insightful episode of Becoming UnDone® with Chris McCormick offers a unique perspective on navigating life's unexpected turns and finding fulfillment beyond conventional success metrics. Tune in to hear the full conversation and stay engaged for more episodes that dive deep into the transformative stories of high achievers.Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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153 | Matt Sayman's Journey from Baylor Basketball Scandal to Redemption
Mar 2901:28:43Summary readyAbout the GuestMatt Sayman is the head boys basketball coach at Midway High School in Waco, Texas, and a former professional basketball player in Iceland. Previously, he played collegiate basketball at Baylor University during one of its most tumultuous periods, amidst a major scandal. He is the author of "The Leftovers: Baylor, Betrayal, and Beyond," which chronicles his experiences during this challenging period. Additionally, Sayman was a Division 1 athlete who played a significant role in the challenging 2003-2004 Baylor basketball season.Episode SummaryJoin Toby Brooks in this episode of Becoming UnDone® as he sits down with Matt Sayman, a former Baylor University basketball player, who shares his journey through adversity, basketball, and faith. Matt recounts his experiences at Baylor during the 2003 basketball scandal, capturing the trials and tribulations that unfolded when his dream almost fell apart. Alongside his personal narrative, Matt reflects on the profound influence of Coach Scott Drew, who took over the Baylor program amidst chaos and laid the foundation for future success, leading the team to a national championship in 2021.Delving into Matt's personal transformation, this episode explores his struggles with identity, the temptations of a partying lifestyle during his senior year, and the pivotal moments that prompted a shift towards a more purposeful and faith-guided path. Sayman candidly discusses his transition from a collegiate athlete to professional sports, the challenges encountered along the way, and the eventual pivot to a coaching career. This episode not only highlights Sayman’s resilience but also underscores the role of unwavering faith and supportive relationships in navigating life's tumultuous seasons. As listeners follow his remarkable journey, they are encouraged to reflect on their own moments of becoming undone and rebuilding stronger.Key TakeawaysMatt Sayman recounts how his family's decision to move to Texas significantly impacted his path to becoming a Division 1 basketball player at Baylor University.The 2003-2004 Baylor basketball season was plagued by turmoil, including a murder scandal and NCAA sanctions, which tested Sayman's identity and resilience.Coach Scott Drew's positive culture and belief in a championship future had a significant impact on the Baylor basketball program despite initial skepticism.Sayman's post-basketball struggles with identity and faith are depicted, illustrating how he overcame personal challenges and rediscovered his purpose.The episode underscores the importance of perseverance, faith, and support systems in overcoming life's adversities and laying the foundation for future success.Notable Quotes"I just really wanted, I think, to go somewhere that I was wanted." – Matt Sayman reflects on choosing Baylor University."Wanted to get out of there. Matt Saman here. And I am undone." – Matt Sayman on feeling lost after the scandal rocked Baylor."You know, it is March Madness time… it's still a special, it's the most special sporting event to me." – Matt Sayman sharing his passion for March Madness."We love stories about championships… But what we don't see is what comes before all of that." – Toby Brooks on building towards success."For years after that, my senior year, I thought nobody cared." – Matt Sayman reflecting on the impact of his senior season years later.ResourcesMatt Sayman's Book: "The Leftovers: BaReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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152 | Navigating Grief and Identity After Life's Unexpected Changes with Sports Chaplain Roger Lipe
Mar 2100:50:18Summary readyAbout the GuestRoger Lipe is a seasoned sports chaplain and ministry leader with over 30 years of experience, primarily working with the Fellowship of Christian Athletes (FCA) at Southern Illinois University (SIU) Carbondale. Throughout his career, he has dedicated his life to providing pastoral care and guidance to athletes, coaches, and sports teams, assisting them through both triumphs and challenges. Recently, after a series of personal trials and the passing of his wife, Sharon, Roger has stepped into a new chapter of his life, focusing on mentoring and supporting leaders in the sports and sports ministry landscape.Episode SummaryIn this poignant episode of Becoming UnDone®, host Toby Brooks welcomes back Roger Lipe, marking him as the first repeat guest on the show. Roger opens up about a life-changing text message that set into motion a whirlwind of events, including his wife's battle with cancer, his decision to retire early, and their subsequent move to be closer to family. Roger shares deeply personal insights into how these events reshaped his perspective on life, faith, and his identity beyond his career. With his characteristic humility and faithfulness, Roger reflects on themes of surrender, purpose, and the transformative power of love in the face of trials.Throughout the episode, key topics include resilience, caregiving, and the journey from loss to finding new purpose. Roger Lipe speaks candidly about the vulnerability of feeling inadequate in caregiving roles, the importance of processing grief authentically, and the redefinition of intimacy and love in marriage. As he navigates through a season of immense change, he looks forward to his new mission of supporting and mentoring sports leaders. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own journeys and consider the courageous steps they can take when life becomes undone.Key TakeawaysThe Power of a Single Moment: A text message can alter life profoundly, setting one on an unforeseen path that tests resilience and faith.Importance of Authentic Grief Processing: Avoiding the rush to return to normalcy and allowing oneself to fully grieve can lead to deeper healing and understanding.Love and Caregiving: True love is embodied in selfless caregiving and maintaining dignity for loved ones during difficult times.Identity beyond Career: Embracing one's identity in faith rather than career achievements can provide a steady foundation during life's upheavals.Mentorship and Legacy: Transitioning into mentorship roles can help bridge the gap left by retiring leaders, preserving organizational values and history.Notable Quotes"The moment that changed everything and set the course of our lives was that text message.""I can't control anything about this process. She doesn't need me to control it. So what can I do to serve my wife well?""Sharon had nothing to give, so it required me to give selflessly, to love extravagantly.""I am always pleasing to him because of who Christ is in me. That's a big deal.""True healing involves fully dealing with grief and all its challenges."ResourcesRoger Lipe's Website: rogerlipe.comContact Roger via email: roger@rogerlipe.comBook: "The Rest of the Gospel"Book: "Tired of Trying to Measure Up" by Jeff VanVondrenThis episode of Becoming UnDone® with Roger Lipe offers profound insights into facing life’s unexpected challenges with courage and grace. Listen to the full episode and stay tuned for more transformative stories that inspire bravery, resilience, and purposeful living.Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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151 | Breaking Free from Destination Addiction: Embrace the Present Moment
Mar 600:26:12Summary readyAbout the HostDr. Toby Brooks is a renowned professor, author, speaker, and performance scientist. With over two decades of experience working with elite athletes and high achievers, he specializes in performance psychology and resilience training. Dr. Brooks is the creator of the Science of the Comeback, an approach designed to help individuals navigate transitions and rebuild their identities after setbacks. He also hosts the podcast Becoming UnDone®, where he delves into the stories of individuals who have faced and overcome significant challenges.Episode SummaryIn this engaging episode of Becoming UnDone®, Dr. Toby Brooks reflects on the theme of Destination Addiction—the continual chase for the next milestone while missing the significance of the present. He shares a personal anecdote from a visit to an In N Out Burger, where he unexpectedly encountered the Lubbock Christian boys basketball team, involving a poignant moment of realization about enjoying the present. This story sets the stage for a deeper exploration of how we often tie our happiness to future achievements, neglecting the value of the current moment.Dr. Brooks draws from his extensive experience with high achievers and athletes to underscore the universal tendency to focus on future accolades and achievements at the cost of missing the joy inherent in our current experiences. He articulates the dangers of defining one's identity based on outcomes and the importance of practicing last-night awareness to fully appreciate life's fleeting moments. Through the lens of performance science and personal anecdotes, this episode uncovers practical strategies to combat Destination Addiction and fosters a mindset that cherishes the journey as much as the destination.Key TakeawaysDestination Addiction Defined: The episode explores the concept of Destination Addiction—pursuing future goals at the cost of appreciating the present.The Value of Presence: Highlighting the importance of savoring current experiences instead of rushing toward the next big goal.Rituals of Arrival: Dr. Brooks suggests creating 'arrival rituals' to adequately honor and celebrate achievements before moving forward.Identity Beyond Outcomes: It's crucial to separate one's identity from successes or failures, focusing instead on consistent qualities like effort and integrity.Practical Strategies: Implementing practical methods such as last-night awareness to ensure fully experiencing and valuing the present moment.Notable Quotes"Those are the moments that define us, not by just the collapse, but by what comes next.""The weird thing is now I'm exactly where I want to be… I wish there was a way to know you're in the good old days before you've actually left them.""If your first instinct after a win is to chase the next thing, you might be addicted to destinations.""Ambition isn't the enemy, neither are growth or high performance. But when our peace is always postponed, trust me, that’s a problem.""Resilience isn’t just about rising after we fall. It’s about not outrunning our own life in the first place."ResourcesBecoming UnDone® Podcast Website: undonepodcast.comScience of the Comeback: scienceofthecomeback.comToby Brooks' Website: tobybrooksphd.comFollow Toby Brooks on Instagram & Facebook: @TobyBrooks, Ph.D.Dive into this episode for an insightful examination of how to overcome Destination Addiction and embrace the now. Stay tuned for more enlightening content from "Becoming Undone" as Toby Brooks continues to unpack valuable lessons in resilience and performance.Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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