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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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From ‘I’m Not Feeling It’ to ‘I Can’t Wait to See You Again’ — The 6 Levels of Flirting Mastery
Feb 1700:36:49Summary readyDo you not know how to flirt with women? Have you ever heard those brutal words, “I’m just not feeling it”? Your confusion ends today. For the first time, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares the 6 Levels of Flirting Mastery, giving you a clear, revolutionary roadmap so you’ll always know exactly how to talk to women. Whether you want basic competence or true mastery, get ready to start hearing, “So, when can I see you again?”The 6 Levels of Flirting:02:00: Level 1: Play05:50: Level 2: Clear Statements of Romantic Interest10:31: Level 3: Banter16:10: Level 4: Emotional Connection21:50: Level 5: Physical & Nonverbal Expressiveness27:22: Level 6: Integration & CalibrationBOOK A FREE CONSULT TO FIND OUT IF CONNELL’S DATING-COACHING CAN HELP YOU BECOME AMAZING AT FLIRTING: DatingTransformation.com
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7 Make-or-Break Dating Moments to Either Win Her Interest… Or Lose It
Feb 1300:37:42Summary readyThere are pivotal moments in dating that determine whether you create romantic sparks with a woman or lose your chance with her entirely. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down 7 make-or-break moments that will determine when and if you find the relationship you want.Episode Highlights:02:45: Make-or-Break Moment 1: To Approach or Not to Approach?07:30: Make-or-Break Moment 2: When and How to Ask Her Out12:15: Make-or-Break Moment 3: THIS Makes Her Swipe Right16:45: Make-or Break Moment 4: Use Your First-Date Superpower to Escape the Friend Zone23:20: Make-or-Break Moment 5: The Secret to Pre-Date Texting26:05: Make-or-Break Moment 6: How to Pass Her Tests30:10: Make or Break Moment 7: A Texting Move to Stop Getting GhostedBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.com
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I Can’t Believe These Are Real: 15 Dating App Openers Men Actually Sent to Women
Feb 200:22:14Summary ready“I want to date you… you remind me of my mom.” Yep, a guy actually sent that as an opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down 15 real messages and sorts them into three categories: magnificent, meh, and mortifying. You’ll laugh, you’ll cringe, and you might even steal a line or two that actually works.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:01:47: The Insult Opener That Somehow Got a Reply02:43: Say This on the Apps—It’s Genius04:25: The One-word Christmas Message that She (Rightly) Hated08:50: A Line Only Hannibal Lecter Should Use13:43: The Most Painfully Boring First Message on Earth20:02: The Secret to Writing Charming OpenersBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN WHY AUTHENTICITY IS THE SECRET WEAPON TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:www.DatingTransformation.com
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“I Thought I Wasn’t Enough… and Then I Met Rachel” (Live Coaching with Charlie)
Jan 2700:53:27Summary readyIf you’re an introvert who freezes up around women, help is here. Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Charlie, a client who went from from doubting his romantic worth to meeting his dream girlfriend Rachel. Connell and Charlie cover the mindset shifts and real-world wins that worked—and they talk some baseball, too. If you want to find your person, this episode is your roadmap.Episode Highlights:11:38: The Two Toxic Thoughts that Kept Charlie Stuck17:23: The Weekend of Approaching that Changed Everything21:12: The Dating Lesson he Learned from MLB Baseball34:44: The Moment Rachel Saw Him Differently47:05: When He Destroyed His Fear of Rejection53:11: Charlie’s Advice to Introverts who Feel Left BehindBOOK A FREE CALL WITH BESTSELLING AUTHOR CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: connell@datingtransformation.com
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Stop Freezing Up IRL: How to Confidently Talk to Women Anywhere Without Overthinking
Jan 2200:30:22Summary readyYou see women you want to meet IRL, but you freeze up, and you don’t know what to say. So you beat yourself up for missing another chance. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method. You’ll learn three simple, authentic ways to confidently start conversations—no cheesy pickup lines required.Episode Highlights:01:40: Why You Freeze Up—and How to Break the Cycle04:45: How the What-to-Say Method Gets You Out of Your Head07:45: What to Say at a Coffeeshop09:49: What to Say at a Bar12:04: What to Say at the Gym25:03: Still Hesitating? Here’s the Real Reason You’re Not Approaching and How to Fix ItBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU APPROACH WOMEN IRL: www.DatingTransformation.com
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‘I Was Getting Ghosted on the Dating Apps, but Now Women Reply to My Openers’ (Live Coaching with Evan)
Jan 1501:05:10Summary readyYou get matches, but then you’re not sure what to write for your opener. You don’t want to sound boring or try-hard, so you overthink it, and the conversation dies before it begins. In this live coaching session, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his client Evan, who got great at writing openers that women reply to. Plus, Evan gives some tips on how to meet women in coffee shops and get instant dates, just like he does.Episode Highlights03:20: From Shaking Hands to 80+ Confident Approaches—Evan’s Transformation]06:01: What to Say and Not Say When You Approach09:15: The Coffee Shop Icebreaker that Led Evan to a Make-Out in Just 30 Minutes!18:45: The Funny Hinge Opener that Gets Women Writing You Back1:01:02: The One Dating Tip Every Guy Needs to HearBOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET WOMEN AND FLIRT WITH CHARM:DatingTransformation.com
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Fix the Flirting Flaw that Creeps Women Out (the New Rules of Dating, Part 2)
Jan 800:24:10Summary readyAre you ready to flirt with women without coming off as “creepy”? In Part 2 of his 26 New Rules of Dating, bestselling author and dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the invisible blind spot that makes good guys accidentally seem creepy—and he helps you fix it. Learn how to flirt with confidence and authenticity, and make 2026 the year you meet your dream girlfriend.Episode Highlights:01:47: The Classy Approaching Move that Women Find Fascinating06:58: Do This to Get Girls Texting You Back13:13: The Right and Wrong Way to Use A.I. on the Apps16:34: The Flirting Flaw that Makes Decent Men Seem Creepy20:37: The Question to Ask on Every First DateBOOK A FREE CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:connell@datingtransformation.com
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Bad Dating Advice Has Failed Decent Men: Here Are 26 New Rules for 2026 That Actually Work (Part 1)
Jan 600:28:06Summary readyBe mysterious. Don’t double-text. Use “tricks” to make her chase you. Yuck! Most dating advice is as outdated as flip phones and Fax machines. The old playbook just doesn’t work. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett unveils his 26 New Dating Rules for 2026. In part 1, he shares how to be kind and confident, why texting “like a girl” is a good thing (seriously!), and reveals the playful dating app opener that women love.Episode Highlights:02:05: Why Women Want You to Talk to Them IRL (and How to Do It)07:05: How to Channel Your First Date Nerves to Spark a Connection09:14: The Dating App Opener You Must Try20:50: The Dreaded Mistake to Stop Making on Dates24:51: Talk about This to NEVER Run Out of Things to SayBOOK A FREE CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:connell@datingtransformation.com
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Stop Freezing Up! What to Say to Meet Women in Real Life (No Weird Pickup Lines Needed)
Dec 2600:25:26Summary readyYou see women you’d love to meet IRL, but you just don’t know what to say. So you freeze up. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method, a simple, rejection-proof framework that makes it easy to meet women in bars, coffee-shops, or the gym. Learn how to start light, flirty conversations without memorized scripts or awkward pickup lines—and finally feel confident talking to women anywhere.Episode Highlights:02:17: The What to Say Method: 3 Simple Ways to Break the Ice Anywhere05:52: Option A: The Charming Compliment07:15: Option B: The Insightful Question10:39: Option C: The Playful Observation17:15: Client Win: How Robbie Went from Anxiety to Instant Coffee Dates20:45: What to Do if You STILL Freeze When You Want to Talk to WomenBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO APPLY HIS WHAT-TO-SAY METHOD AND MEET WOMEN IRL:www.DatingTransformation.com
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“I Approached a Woman and 2 Strangers Literally Applauded Me” (Live Coaching with Andrew)
Dec 2301:01:06Summary readyAndrew was the dateless, anxious guy who never approached women. Now, he gets numbers and dates—and after one especially bold effort, two strangers literally applauded him. In this live coaching session with dating coach Connell Barrett, Andrew breaks down the simple, practical strategies that changed everything. Andrew isn’t a natural extrovert. He just did the work. And if he can do this, you can too.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS02:10: From Anxious to Approaching Women Anywhere35:55: The Daily Confidence Ritual that Changed Everything38:25: Exactly What Andrew Said to Her that Sparked an Instant Make-out43:47: The Exact Moment Andrew’s Fear of Approaching Vanished46:42: What to Say When A Woman You’re Dating Asks, “Are We Exclusive?”BOOK A FREE CALL WITH BESTSELLING AUTHOR CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: connell@datingtransformation.com
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